My Coaching Methods
My Coaching Tools
First I see the person and then the method.
For our coaching work, I choose the most appropriate method(s) to be used flexibly and creatively. Depending on the process and impact the coaching method has, I can decide whether to maintain, amend or change it. The goal is to maintain a dynamic that guides you to more autonomy and effectiveness.
In our introductory session, I can explain the possibilities and opportunities of individual methods.
Only the tip of the iceberg is visible!
The iceberg model describes levels of interpersonal communication:
• The upper layer is the visible part of the iceberg (about 1/7th of the iceberg) and represents the conscious content level of your life, e.g. where and how you work, where and how you live.
• The lower level is the unseen part (about 6/7ths of the iceberg) and marks the level of our unconscious reasoning, opinions and beliefs that we form through the course of our lives.
With this model of communication theory, one can uncover and understand unconscious opinions, beliefs, fears and needs. With this newly acquired awareness, you can have the renewed possibility of choice about your experiences and actions.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Communication Methods and Intervention Techniques
Neuro—concerning the nervous system—stands for the way our brains absorb and processes information.
Linguistic—concerning language—stands for the way language is used, meaning how we communicate both unconsciously and consciously.
Programming—using the brain function—means comprehending and deliberately changing the inner thought structures, reaction patterns and previous behavioral strategies.
NLP is a toolbox of techniques and methods that we can use to communicate effectively with ourselves and others. The NLP model was developed in the early 1970s by John Grinder and Richard Bandler. They sought to unite the most successful methods of talk and psychotherapy and gestalt and family for the purpose of making precise models of human excellence.
• Communication Model: “The Inner Team” of Friedemann Schulz von Thun
The Inner Team is a personality and communication model developed by the Hamburg psychologist Friedemann Schulz von Thun. It focuses on the multiplicity of inner voices that emerge from our unconscious mind. These voices can often confuse and block our ability to communicate effectively, but they can also provide a profound insight into the subconscious, revealing underlying influences to our behavior.
Conscious engagement with the differing inner voices helps us to communicate clearly and authentically to the outside world.
• Nonviolent Communication (NVC) according to Marshall Rosenberg
Nonviolent Communication is a process developed by the psychologist Marshall Rosenberg.
It enables people to communicate objectively and constructively in order to improve the flow of communication between them. This type of communication is founded on a supportive relationship. NVC helps us to take responsibility for our own feelings and actions.
Rosenberg summarizes the communication of NVC as follows: "If A, then I feel B, because I need C: that's why I'd like to D.”
• Intercultural Communication
Intercultural communication refers to an understanding between people belonging to different cultures.
Through patterns of behavior learned in the earliest childhood, certain communication patterns become familiar. The process takes place mostly unconsciously, whereby the respective cultural standards influence the course of events.
This is worked out through a variety of exercises on intercultural learning focusing on verbal and non-verbal communication with explicit and implicit communication.
The Enneagram model distinguishes, in a unique manner, nine different personality patterns with their individual strengths, weaknesses and potential for development, including relationships to each other and amongst themselves.
It is a model of self-knowledge: a map that enhances a person’s understanding of themselves and others, and enables further personal growth. With this method one can learn more about oneself at a deeper level.
• Elements of Gestalt Therapy and Family Therapy
Gestalt therapy is a holistic therapy dedicated to the corporal, mental and spiritual integration of a person in his or her surroundings. It explores what happens when the connections between feelings, desires, fears, goals, and old belief systems become more apparent.
Family therapy is a form of treatment that employs techniques and exercises from other therapies, and in which the family as a social system is the central focus. Family therapy strives to promote positive changes in relationships between the family members and to increase the quality of their communication.
• Elements of Dialectic Behavioral Therapy
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, DBT for short, is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy that combines various therapeutic methods. It builds upon a dialectical approach, meaning that conflicting problem areas or view points are recognized, accepted and as a result brought into equilibrium. The elements I use are inner mindfulness, dealing with feelings, and also building healthy confidence and self-acceptance.
Stress Management through Mindfulness
“Mindfulness is awareness that arises through paying attention on purpose in the present moment, and non-judgmentally." —Jon Kabat-Zinn
Through presence and guided attention, it becomes possible to recognize one’s own patterns of perception and response. This creates space to change these patterns and to handle stress and demands differently. A clearer perception of one’s body facilitates an earlier recognition of bodily signals and their correct identification. The ability to consciously direct one’s attention places a counterpoint to feeling trapped or flooded with emotion.
Based on a specific request, the participant sets him or herself and also other important elements in the form of human or symbolic representatives (e. g., chairs, cards, figures, labels). Once the representatives stand in a constellation, they experience specific body perceptions and can clearly state what needs to be changed.
The body perceptions are systematically queried by the constellation’s leader. This makes it possible to obtain a deep understanding of a situation or a system and to try out various solutions.
Through Systemic Constellations, you will learn the basics for determining your own perspective and self-image.